The Weight Lifters
A Six-Week Death Loss Support Group for Men
Next cohort: Tuesdays, March 31 – May 5, 2026 · 5:00–6:30pm Pacific / 8:00–9:30pm Eastern
You know how to be strong. You've been doing it your whole life. But there's a kind of weight that strength alone can't lift.
Most men are taught to be the strong one — to hold it together, keep moving, take care of everyone else. And so you carry it. The grief, the loss, the weight of someone's absence. You carry it to work, into your relationships, through ordinary days that somehow feel completely different now.
The Weight Lifters isn't about putting the weight down. It's about learning to carry it differently — with more skill, more honesty, and alongside other men who know exactly how heavy it is.
Is This You?
You may have lost a parent, a partner, a child, a sibling, a close friend — someone whose absence has rearranged everything. The death may be recent, or you may have been carrying it for years.
You may find yourself:
Feeling the weight of being "the strong one" — for your family, your workplace, everyone but yourself
Wondering why you can't just move on, or why grief arrived harder and stranger than you expected
Numbing out with work, alcohol, busyness, screens
Isolated, even around people who love you — unable to find the words for what you're going through
Wanting to talk about the person you lost, but not knowing how, or with whom
Carrying grief from a long time ago that never had a place to land
If someone important to you has died and you're still figuring out how to carry that, you belong here.
What the Group Looks Like
The Weight Lifters is a small, virtual cohort of men who meet weekly over six weeks on Zoom. Each 90-minute session has a clear focus — one opening, one core practice or teaching, one close. The format is structured enough to feel safe and open enough to go somewhere real.
Guest Voices
Darnell Lamont Walker
Writer, death doula, and author of Never Can Say Goodbye: The Life of a Death Doula and the Art of a Peaceful End — Darnell's work sits at the intersection of storytelling, grief, and healing, with particular attention to silence around death in the Black community and what it costs us to mourn alone. His writing anchors the group from the very beginning, and he joins at Session 3 — the midpoint — for conversation rooted in what participants have already lived through together.
Colin Campbell
Writer, director, and author of Finding the Words: Working Through Profound Loss with Hope and Purpose. Colin and his wife lost their two teenage children, Ruby and Hart, in a drunk driving accident — a crash that also left them injured. His book is a memoir and a guide, rooted in his own experience with Jewish mourning traditions like Shiva and Kaddish, that makes a powerful case against private, wordless grief. He advocates for something harder and more life-giving: active, vocal mourning in community, in ritual, and in honest relationship with others. He joins at Session 5, when participants have four weeks of lived experience to bring to the conversation and are ready to ask what grief might mean — not just how much it hurts.
Program Details
Format: Virtual — six weekly sessions on Zoom
Duration: Six weeks
Session Length: 90 minutes
Meeting Time: Tuesdays, 5:00–6:30pm Pacific / 8:00–9:30pm Eastern
Dates: March 31, April 7, April 14, April 21, April 28, and May 5
Group Size: Limited enrollment — intimate by design
Cost: $250
Next Cohort Begins: March 31, 2026
Common Questions
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Yes. Participation is part of how this works — grief moves when it's spoken and witnessed, not just observed. That said, there's no script and no pressure to have it together. You can come uncertain, inarticulate, or not knowing where to start. That's exactly where most men begin.
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Grief doesn't have an expiration date. Some men carry a loss for years before finding a space to actually sit with it. Wherever you are in your grief, there's room for you here.
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Most relationships are. Grief after a difficult or ambivalent relationship can be some of the hardest to navigate — and the least talked about. This group holds space for all of it.
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Men who have lost someone and are ready to stop carrying it alone. This group is explicitly inclusive — LGBTQ+ men, men of color, and men from all backgrounds are welcome and centered here.
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No. This is grief coaching and peer support, not clinical treatment. If you're in crisis or need mental health care, Dewey can help connect you with appropriate resources. This group works well alongside therapy, not as a replacement for it.
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Most of the men in this group haven't either. That's kind of the point.
Ready to Lift?
If something in you said yes while reading this — trust that.
The next step is a free 20-minute conversation with Dewey — not to qualify you, but to answer your questions and make sure this is the right fit for you at this moment. Most men leave that call feeling clearer, not more anxious.
Questions? Reach Dewey directly at deweydan@gmail.com