Coaching Quirky Queers
You've probably spent a lot of your life making space for other people.
In your community, your relationships, your work — you know how to hold things. You're good at it. You might even be known for it.
And somewhere in all that holding, you've lost track of what you actually need. What you want. What a life that fits you would even look like.
That's what we work on here.
A Little About Where I'm Coming From
I'm a queer man. I've navigated the particular terrain of building a life that didn't come with a template — the identity questions, the community politics, the grief of losing people and relationships and versions of yourself, the joy that's available on the other side of all that.
I'm not going to need things explained to me. I'm not going to flinch. And I'm not going to pretend that coaching is a neutral act — that what you bring into the room doesn't have a history, a body, a political context.
It does. We'll work with all of it.
What We Tend To Work On
This isn't a curriculum — it's a map of terrain that comes up often. We'll go where you need to go.
Values and alignment. What actually matters to you, underneath the roles you play and the expectations you carry? When you know your own values clearly, decisions get easier and the noise gets quieter.
Boundaries as self-knowledge. Not walls. Not rules. An understanding of what you have to give, what you don't, and how to say so without it being a crisis every time.
Belonging — including to yourself. You've probably worked hard to create belonging for others. We'll look at what gets in the way of you experiencing it. The old messages. The survival strategies that made sense once and maybe don't anymore.
Pleasure and sustainability. Justice work depletes. Caregiving depletes. The world depletes. You're allowed to be replenished. We'll figure out what that actually looks like for you — not as a productivity hack, but as something you deserve.
Identity and becoming. Queer lives don't follow a straight line. (Pun intended.) There's often more becoming to do — more versions of yourself to meet, more room to take up. We'll make space for that.
How We Work Together
Sessions are 60 minutes, usually every two weeks, over anywhere from four to eight months — though we'll figure out the right pace together.
We start with a longer orientation session to get oriented: who you are, what's happening, what you're hoping for. From there, sessions are a mix of reflective conversation, practical tools, and between-session commitments that keep the work moving when we're not on Zoom.
You'll have email access between sessions for anything that can't wait.
Pricing
I use a trust-based sliding scale. No documentation required — you know your financial reality best.
Yes Rate — $325/hour You have the means to pay the full rate and then some. Choosing this rate helps make coaching accessible to community members who can't.
Queen Rate — $275/hour Your coaching is paid by an institution or organization, or you have personal or generational wealth and can invest in your development without significant strain.
Fierce Rate — $200/hour You're paying out of pocket, financially stable but budget-conscious, and making a real investment in yourself.
Queerdo Rate — $150/hour You're part of the queer community, ready to do the work, and the other rates would be genuinely prohibitive right now.
I trust you to choose honestly. That's the whole system.
Want to see if we're a fit?
Schedule a free 30-minute call. We'll talk about where you are, what you're looking for, and whether working together makes sense. No pitch. Just a conversation.
Or email me at dewey@dewey-schott.com.
My values collages:
Explorer
This value is about curiosity, exploration, adventure, and liberation.